Obligatory Donations

I got a call the other day from the school, I have my daughter currently enrolled in, asking me for a donation. The way the person on the line approached the conversation is to begin with an assumption. Or actually quite a few assumptions. She said, the fundraiser is due on Wednesday" The first assumption, was that I received "the fundraising package" explaining what the fundraiser was all about. The second assumption was that I was going to donate rather than volunteer making either one seem obligatory. I found it off-putting to say the least and luckily was there the week before and spoke with the Director of the school personally. During our meeting I specifically asked her if it was an obligation to donate and she said no- I did offer at that time to re-do the school website as it was, and still is, in (great) need of a re-design. Anyway she declined my offer. Granted this is her choice but that's where I felt I could make the most difference since its my area of expertise. So to get a call after offering something that is of a much higher monetary value to them (probably much bigger than my donation would be) was to me thoughtless and on some level leaves me feeling like either the organization doesn't communicate with one another or they just don't care.

What do you parents think. Should parents have to donate after paying tuition and actually teaching our children? And if so, shouldn't it be an invitation, at least in part, in the context of love and service of our community and our kids?